01 April 2014

timing is everything

So I found a few quotes to pass along to two very different friends both dealing with a break-up, specific to the issue of "timing".  They are certainly not alone in this conundrum - we have all been there at one time or another.  Sometimes things or people seem perfect - they fit in our lives, in our heart, in our families and we cannot help but look towards the future with them.  But as much as they "fit" or as happy as they make us,  if they are not ready or if they are at a different stage in their life then the only thing we can do is accept it and find a way to move forward.  I do realize that is easier said then done but as with most things in our life we are faced with the challenge to accept it or change it.  We ultimately have the choice to keep fighting for something but there are times that we must realize when it's an endless battle. 

Timing doesn't always have to reflect into the world of relationships - sometimes it is at work, a new job or a position that we think is "perfect" for us that gets awarded to someone else.  We have to trust that things do all happen for a reason and that they are beyond our control.  The only thing that we can control are our reactions to situations.  We, unfortunately, cannot control someone else's mind or heart or timing.  Some things are best left in the hands of fate and realizing that the paths of our life are meant to cross into others and sometimes the duration of time we spend together once meeting is longer or shorter than we would like but we have to keep moving along and see what is next.  Spring is upon us and it's the best time of the year to make the conscious choice to find happiness even with a broken heart.

Today feels BEAUTIFUL! The sun is out and the breeze is warm and it is crazily already April. There is promise in the air!!  It is time for the world to come alive again - when we all have the chance to rebuild and start again.  Time to clean up our hearts and take a moment to step into the sunshine and reflect.  It's rebirth and renewal - the heaviness of winter is behind us.  Though some moments seem like they will overwhelm us, spring allows us the breath of 'possibility'. We come out of hibernation and start to socialize again.  We start taking better care of our selves and rely less on comfort foods and bulky sweaters and move towards fresh options and the feeeling of sun on our skin.  It's amazing really, how if we choose to, we can find brightness in the world and apply it to our lives.  Though one of my friends made the choice to end her relationship, the other did not and was taken by surprise.  Both have broken hearts but I feel confident in telling them that they will heal and where the cracks are, there may be more trepedation but they will love again.  And again.  And again.  Sometimes new spring love is even better than cozy winter love because it brings new adventures and longer days on the porch.  It has promise and freshness to it! 

So maybe the timing isn't right for something in your life.... I know I am letting certain things go right now and as much as it pains me to do so, waking up this morning I feel ready to move forward and try something new.  I know that things happen and people arrive in our lives for a reason and they leave for a reason too.  I know I am the creator of my own happiness and I refuse to let anyone take that from me! I am giving back the negativity to anyone who brings it into my path - I refuse to engage it and instead I will find the positive alternative.  Sometimes that is the only choice we can make.  But the choice is ours.  


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